Foster Parenting

Foster parenting is quite tough considering the circumstances surrounding it. It is challenging but noble as well. Foster parenting is a way to face new challenges and find rewards in it. Parenting has always remained a difficult but satisfying task. But compared to biological parents, foster parents face extra pressure and need to be at their best while handling kids. Foster kids are often abandoned or have unpleasant history and that is the reason why they face initial problems in trusting people. These kids are also quite vulnerable. Foster parents need to be very careful. They also have to provide safe anchorage to the child.

One of the basic criteria for foster parents is to spend quality time with the child. The time well spent goes a long way in establishing connectivity and increases closeness. Deeper the bond, easier it becomes for the child to trust and share his feelings. Even small things like completing household chores together or working in the lawn can cultivate closeness. Kids will grow in a better way if there is no unnecessary usage of authority. Don’t force your decision. Let the trust be built initially and if you want them to follow you it should be done in loving tone. Exhibiting excessive authority will result in revolt or even lifelong repulse towards the parents.

Foster parents need to follow child’s development very closely. That will help in understanding his needs and requirements. The best way is to find out the gap and fill the void created by previous parents. Parents should also try to have open discussion with the child. Good conversation helps in bridging the gap and established wonderful relationship.

Few Rules for Parents

There are few basic rules every parent must follow if they want to see thir kids grwoig in an ideal way. Those few rules can be summed up in foloowing points-

Kids must be taught basic values like patience, honesty, patience and self-control etc. these values should be ingrained in their mindset with utmost care and in a steady way. The best way to teach is by presenting your own example. Making them realize the importance of words like self-confidence and self-esteem goes a long way in chalking out their personalities. These are the virtues they will carry for the rest of their lives.

Children must be praised openly. Their inapparopriate behaviour also needs to be reprimanded in an appropriate fashion. Parents should also strive to maintain a happy environment at home. Nothing is better than a happy family.

Always, alwzys belive in your kids and also teah them to belive in themselves.

Parents must also have a look at below written passage in ‘The Prophet’ by Kahlil Gibran.

“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward not tarries with yesterday.”

Remembering this passage and the underlying message goes a long way in becoming a good parent.